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On F*cking Up, and... Birthdays

11/18/2015

 
The thing is... I'm trying hard to be okay. And sometimes (most of the time), I am very much okay. I am happy. And then there's the other times when I have to fight what might be defined as severe depression. (Sidenote: Depression does not equate unhappiness, and it doesn't mean I dislike myself. It doesn't mean I'm not fun, or that I'm crazy or a mess. It only means that sometimes, I feel depressed.)

And let's be clear. I'm not throwing any sort of pity party or playing the martyr. I don't think that anything I experience is any different from what many other people feel. The only real difference is that it's actually me experiencing. Because, I can empathize and relate to other people, but I can then only feel (deeply! intensely!) as myself. (Sidenote: Let's not get into a semantics discussion of the definition of self. All I know is that I wake up in the same capable/strong/perfect-and-flawed body every morning and do my best to go about my day.)

But, when I fight depression, I have coping mechanisms. I don't allow myself to just climb into bed and stare at the ceiling, even if that's the inclination. I exercise. I delve into flute-music-teaching, or a book, or writing. Or I start a new project. These things help; I rely on them. And you know, some of the things that have come out of a depressed period are accomplishments that ultimately make me feel very good.

Overall, I am slowly becoming the person I want to be.

And then, of course, there are the not so great coping mechanisms... sometimes I drink too much.

​Sometimes, I fuck up. 

But, these screw ups should not define who I am, any more than the accomplishments necessarily should. It's all just parts that make up a whole, right? I am a conglomeration of the goodbadmediocre, and I wouldn't want to wholly identify as any specific part of that. 

But birthdays... they're difficult not because of getting older, although that's obviously very much a reality (grey hair and eye crinkles be damned). They're difficult for me because I feel alone. I knowknowknowknow I have so many friends and family that care about me and love me and I have plans for the rest of the week because people care and love... but still, I feel lonely, and for some reason, slightly homesick for a home I can't quite define.

And damn, birthdays/holidays... so much pressure to have a 'good' day, but it's just a day, and it might be good, but it might be not-as-good. It's just a day.

But hell, even writing it down helps, and today is a beautiful sunny day and I'm about to go to a job I love within a career that is pretty damn awesome. I am a lucky person, and I am proud of who I am and what I'm doing with my life.

So, here's to year 34, and a lot of good days.

Sidenote: I pretty much always want cake, but today (and maybe tomorrow)... I'm definitely going to eat some.

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